Wish List

 
In 2011, I will practice my handstands and headstands.

What postures are you looking forward to rocking in 2011?

Number one on my list is the headstand, followed closely by Standing Head to Knee. I want to be able to hold the posture for a full 60 seconds.

I also wouldn't mind these lovely finds via the illustrious Coffee and Yoga.

Ready to take flight.
Best spinning dress ever.

This would look great as a poster on my wall.

These would also look great poster-sized at a yoga studio.

Isn't that the cutest coffee mug cozy?

Hello, California

 

Yesterday and today I have been lucky enough to enjoy some California sunshine and visits with friends. I especially enjoyed the way the leggings I wore matched the blue sky.

We went on a little adventure to Anthropologie and I loved all their creative decorations. Too bad I couldn't afford any of the adorable dresses!

Reindeer antlers gone wild!

Pinecone mania.

Thread it.

Have you done any post-Christmas shopping? 

Change Your Life

Photo by the one and only Cassi Saari.

Anyone know this famous Rilke poem? I was reading it over again today, trying to inspire up some poetry, and I fell in love with the last line all over again.

Plus, it's an all-around fantastic poem to be reading as the year draws to a close.
Archaic Torso of Apollo
by Ranier Maria Rilke
We cannot know his legendary head
with eyes like ripening fruit. And yet his torso
is still suffused with brilliance from inside
like a lamp, in which his gaze, now turned to low,

gleams in all its power. Otherwise
the curved breast could not dazzle you so, nor could
a smile run through the placid hips and thighs
to that dark center where procreation flared.

Otherwise this stone would seem defaced 
beneath the translucent cascade of the shoulders
and would not glisten like a wild beast's fur:

would not, from all the borders of itself,
burst like a star: for here there is no place
that does not see you. You must change your life.


These beautiful words are based on an unfinished statue, and the way it took the breath away of a poet as he viewed another artist's work. Have you ever been blown away by art so fully that you feel you must change your life?

Now is the time of year that I think about the transformations we go through, the way our art changes, our circle of friends shifts, our time spent moves toward new activity. 

This is definitely the time of year when I look back, and there's a lot from 2010 to remember.

A year ago my sister had a newborn; now she smiles at a little boy and prays with him and teaches him how to speak.

A year ago today I was about to experience a panic attack, a tough bout of depression, and a long haul climbing back to my usual energetic, well-slept self. Today I feel amazing, so much more in tune with my personal needs and capabilities, and now I know that I have the power to avoid ever slipping into such a dark place again. I'm well-armed with family and friends that mean the world to me, with my yoga practice, and with a life spent doing the things I love. (And a blog where I can write about them and share them with you, dear readers!)

I couldn't be happier to be here, guys. Thanks for reading!

A year ago I didn't know the joys of Bikram or whether I'd have a steady job that I liked after graduating from Northwestern. Today I work full-time at a company I love, and I have plans to complete Yoga Teacher Training and fulfill my dreams of sharing this yoga with others.

A year ago none of us were who we are today.

It's been a crazy year, yogis! It's been an awesome one, too. Hope you are having fun taking a glance back at where you've been, and getting pumped for what's to come. Here's wishing you a wonderful close to 2010, and please share your stories past, present and future!



As for the Winter Extravaganza... a big congrats to Emily. You win the NYE giveaway! Please contact me with your mailing address so we can get those goodies shipped.

And speaking of shipping, if there are any winners out there who are still waiting to receive loot (and who have been waiting a while), please contact me ASAP. I want to make sure you all get your gifts in a reasonable amount of time. 

A big thanks to all our wonderful Alive in the Fire partners, too. You guys are some of the most generous people I've ever encountered (honestly!) and I hope you've enjoyed the exposure to the lovely Bikram community here at the blog. 

Namaste to all, and happy impending 2011!

Photo by the tall and talented Cassi Saari.

A quick and final note on partners: I will be posting more in-depth in the next week on what it means to partner with Alive in the Fire, how you can get involved, and the benefits of getting exposure to this Bikram yoga and blogging community. If you've got a small business -- yoga related or not -- and want to promote your goods through a lively, green, and growing outlet, please contact me today @ aliveinthefire at gmail dot com. I am looking forward to collaborating with you!

Last Look at Christmas

Merry Christmas! A little look at our 2010 celebration.

I figure I better post these before it's New Year's, right?

Merry Christmas! It was a lovely day filled with family, food, laughs, and relaxation.


Grandma and Z playin' with some toys.

Mom and Dad are napping on the couch, which means prime time for playing with Auntie!

Candles and a fire in the fireplace. Mmmm.

Sis and Brother-in-Law toast!

Mom, you made amazing turkey!

Love you, twin sis! 

Quality Lincoln Log time in after dinner.

Zeke the puppy! One of his favorite games to play :)


Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good night!  


Love you, family. Thanks for such a wonderful Christmas.

New Photography Finds

Wedding photos via Paper + Lace.

This morning I stumbled upon some stunning wedding photos at Paper + Lace Photography that I couldn't resist sharing. I love the sense of candidness in the work.

Love that pooch!

Beachy kiss.

I also fell in love with the site An Afternoon With... In this innovative project, photographer Michael Mundy spends an afternoon with people in their spaces (generally gorgeous loft apartments or rooftops of urban buildings). The results are magical! Read more about the site here.


Photo by Michael Mundy.

Photo by Michael Mundy.

Photo by Michael Mundy.

Real Men Do Yoga: John Low

Bikram men, are you practicing through the holidays? Here's another entry in the Real Men Do Yoga series to inspire you to hit the hot room this week.

And here's some inspiration to submit your story to the series. If you do, you win a prize! Simply email a few paragraphs about your practice and a photo or two to aliveinthefire at gmail dot com and you will get a tasty treat.

Now is the time to let yourself indulge -- just a little! -- especially after you've earned dessert by practicing for 90 minutes. And if you prefer something a little less sweet, just let me know. We've got a variety of prizes available.

You can choose from incredible Etsy bakers who make tasty and tiny cupcakes, divinity fudge, and gourmet cookies. Or you might want to spice it up with a jar of hot mustard. Homemade salsa and handmade soaps to come!





Win any of these tasty snacks simply by submitting your story! Note: not exact pictures.


Today's featured Etsy donations are from Cupcake Tin 2010, a bakery shop where you can buy adorable single cupcakes in a tin and send them to your friends and family as unique gifts. The shop's most popular flavors are chocolate, red velvet with cream cheese frosting, and funfetti (white cake with sprinkles baked in).


Photos via The Cupcake Tin's Facebook page.


Check out Cupcake Tin 2010 on Twitter and Facebook.


As a new customer, you will automatically save 1o to 15% on your order. Check out the awesome selection today and place an order with Nicole for a delicious holiday treat.


Now, introducing John Low, a regular Bikram yogi at Bikram Original Hot Yoga in Malasia. This is his story.
John Low works hard to balance his Bikram practice with home life and time with family.

Years ago, I damaged my left knee after doing squatting exercises at the gym. More recently I curled my leg to pull myself closer to the office desk on my wheeled-chair, and my knee popped.


Now, it hurts like hell now at the point of the common angle of climbing up stairs. This also means I can't play tennis. 

A mutual friend on Twitter read my whining about the pain. She happens to be a qualified trainer, and was just returning from Texas then. "Why not come give Bikram yoga a try?" she asked. Little did I know, the simple question would lead to personal transformation.

My mum used to teach yoga to her friends at home. She had started practicing at home when my older brother bought her a book titled Yoga for Health. Since I was the youngest and had already started high school, my mom had more time and thought to teach it. I think she was proud of how many people had complimented her on how young she looked for her age; she's always attributed it to yoga. Whenever she was teaching upstairs, I'd be downstairs watching either The A-Team, Airwolf or MacGyver, to give you an idea when this was.

Sometimes Mom was practicing, I'd join her. Not for all the poses, only what I thought was challenging for someone my age then. The Bat was one posture I would always try, where one sits on the floor with legs straight and wide open, and chin to the floor, finger grabbing the toes. If I recall, the advanced version would involve proceeding to a complete side-split, with the stomach on the floor and rolling forward and end-up on the stomach with legs behind and flat on the floor.

Years after that while I was growing up, I'd still do that for fun, on the floor while watching TV, or reading the newspapers. I always felt better after a stretch. It also helped balance out the karate and kung-fu classes I used to take. Boarding school bullies who try to challenge me would think twice when I "show off" warming up for the "duel".  To be honest, telling a story about how I had given the karate instructor a bloody nose during sparring also helped.

Since those years, I took up the usual sports like tennis and gym, never at all giving "real" complete yoga classes any thought. I was in all ways, a typical bloke.

So I accepted the invitation to give Bikram class a try this past April. I was not happy with my weight and, truthfully, my image, my puffy face. I could only wear my two largest-sized pants in my wardrobe. I had also just done a medical exam and my cholesterol levels were frightening. 

At the first class, I could do most of the stretch-related poses, but no way till today could I keep my endurance up for all the pose-holding. 


In May, I took a three-week-long work-related trip away from home. Since this was my first time to the United States, I tried a lot of new foods including American-portion-sized fast food. When I returned, I felt even more motivated to practice the yoga.  

I have been trying to go three times a week since then. Most weeks when I couldn't keep this routine, it was due to my daughter's whining. Since I have a full-time job, I could only go to yoga after work, which meant no time for her and family, or our trips to the playground, dinners together, or simply just hanging out. During periods of lull in the office, I have gone for the early morning classes to improvise. I have been lucky with this arrangement this year.

Around July or August during a family dinner, my older sister, whom I don't see regularly, commented that I have lost weight "and look better this way." Her teenage daughters and other nieces, being something of activity-junkies themselves, were asking which studio I attend. I had even brought one of them along once for her to try. And as expected, it is too slow for her. Though she enjoyed it, she is back to her usual bouldering and cheer-leading activities, "for now," she says.

So, I'm still attending Bikram as regularly as I can. I do feel more energetic, and am more noticeably able to keep up with the kids. I am getting back some definition, an image which I wasn't so conscious about at our recent family trip to a water park. I am sure the wife has also had some secret thoughts though she hasn't shared much (!), and I do know she is happy for me too.


These days I can chomp down the nieces-made cheesecakes and rebut the wife when she says I would put on weight. "Don't worry, I now know the formula!" I tell her.

Thanks to Bikram instructor Mei Ng, for encouraging me in the Hot Room and inviting me to submit to Alive in the Fire :)


Namaste,
John 
 
John spends his early mornings and late nights in Bikram's Torture Chamber, getting energized for time with family.

John first posted this story about his Bikram practice here. His blog, Daddee Yah!, is named after his daughter's first words. Contact him on Twitter here


Thanks, John, for submitting your story! If you want to submit yours, yogis, you know who to email. A few paragraphs and a few pictures to aliveinthefire at gmail dot com, and you'll win a prize!

Alive in the Fire's Advice for Bikram Beginners

With the new year approaching, I imagine a lot of people will be putting their yoga practice at the top of their list of resolutions. Are you a yogi looking to try Bikram for the first time?

Or maybe you've never practiced yoga at all and you're terrified of the heat?

This advice is for you. Read on to learn why you shouldn't fear the Hot Room and how instead, you should look forward to your daily dose of Bikram. Though it sounds overwhelming to be in the heat for 90 minutes, this type of meditation and workout allows you to live your life to the fullest outside of the studio!

Please feel free to share this guide with any friends, family or colleagues you feel might benefit from a nudge in the right (mat-centered, mirrored-room) direction. 

Here's to a yoga-filled 2011!

Your mat awaits you.

Alive in the Fire's Guide for Bikram Beginners

First things first

Thank yourself for taking good care of your body. Yoga is an ancient practice for good reason: it works! As long as you approach your mat with an open heart and mind, you will be fine. In fact, you'll do great!

The first step to becoming a yogi: where the mind and heart and eyes go, the body follows.

Try having no expectations

As in most things in life, this is extremely hard to do. But if you can do your best to come to class with no thoughts on how deeply you'll enter the postures, how great you'll feel, or how hard things will be, you'll do better. As my mentor and studio owner Stuart likes to say, "Expectations only serve to become your limitations." It's true, and especially in the heat!

Know basic yoga room and studio etiquette.

Please don't talk in the room out of respect for fellow yogis who are preparing for class or relaxing afterward -- this can be quite distracting! Only bring water into the room (no juice, soda, etc). Practice with bare feet and in comfortable clothes (preferably shorts in Bikram so you can see your locked knee). No cell phones, jewelry or watches in the yoga room. Don't wear perfume to class. Only take a three-minute shower afterward, especially if it's crowded.

Practice quiet in the heat. 

Arrive 20 minutes before class starts, and come on an empty stomach

Allow ample time for yourself to sign in, get water and a towel, and get set up before class. Rushing will just stress you out. And don't eat for 3-4 hours prior to class or the heat may make you feel nauseous. Some people like to have a granola bar, piece of fruit, or coconut water closer to class so that they have higher blood sugar. Do what makes you feel best, but no pasta or other heavy foods -- by the floor series, you'll be regretting that. Big time. (I speak from experience!)

Meet your new and super-hydrating best friend.

Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate!

Bikram yoga happens in a room that's 105 degrees at 40% humidity which means you are going to pour sweat. Be sure to drink plenty of water for the 3-4 hours leading up to class. I also highly recommend tryin VitaCoco coconut water and maybe adding a banana to your breakfast routine to amp up your potassium levels. You will feel the difference! You also want to be sure to drink a lot after class. During the 90 minutes, do your best to only take small sips of water; that way your stomach won't be full and you won't feel nauseous.

Remember that yoga's not just about being flexible: strength and balance are equally as important for many of the postures

When I invite them to yoga, I've heard so many friends say, "Don't laugh at me! I can't even touch my toes!" as though that's reason enough never to try yoga in the first place. News flash: it's OK! You will build flexibility by using your strength and balance, or vice versa. And chances are, if you're hesitant, you need it even more. After all, the postures you hate the most are the ones you need most, too.

No matter your gear, you can rock your yoga practice. 

Photo via

Lululemon

 on Flickr.

Your mat, yogawear and sexy tattoos won't save you

It's easy to get caught up in the status behind expensive gear and cute outfits at your studio, but the bottom line is this: whether you shop at Lululemon or Target, whether you're tall or short, muscular or lithe, you need the yoga. So come to your studio to practice, not boost your own ego

Don't be afraid to sweat it out and let your body detox during class.

Leave your hand towels at home because you need your sweat! It's your body's only cooling mechanism and wiping it away during the postures is only going to distract you and waste your energy. Be sure you have a full-sized bath towel under you during class so you don't slip, but tiny towels can stay home. Remember, the more still you are between postures, the deeper your meditation and the more energy you save.

Forget the fidgeting; it will only make class harder!

Don't set up next to your friends.

As much as it may seem like it, they cannot save you during class. Enjoy your own little mat paradise near the back of the room, where you can see yourself in the front mirrors. Focus forward on yourself (not the teacher) and listen to the words. If you get confused, look around at more experienced yogis for an idea of what to do.

Listen to the dialogue!

I should probably put this point about 100 times in the list because it's the most important and the hardest for newbies to do. Bikram's dialogue is the genius behind his yoga: it's trademarked, memorized, and taught exactly the same way during every class taught by a certified teacher (we hope). Steps go in a specific order for a reason and there is only one right way into and out of the postures. In Bikram yoga, 99% right is 100% wrong and doing the postures the right way is the only way to get the full medical benefit. Instead of putting your nose to your knee in Standing Head to Knee, put your exactly forehead to your exactly knee so you get all the benefits. In Padahastasana, suck in your belly and lock your knees before you pull with your biceps. This allows you to stretch further, and safely stretch your hamstrings without pulling anything.

Listen to the words throughout class!

With that said, if you get confused, look around and find a yogi with an ass like yours, and do what they're doing!

It sounds hilarious, but this is one of the best pieces of yoga advice I've ever heard. The teacher can't save you. Your neighbor's grip or arm placement or foot alignment can. Pay close attention to the details!

Do the postures right and your body will thank you. Photos via Bikram Yoga NYC

Take breaks and go slow.

This is another big one. You're probably going to get overwhelmed at some point (I still do, and I've been doing the yoga for almost a year now!). Sit down and meditate waaaaay before you feel the need to bolt out of the room. And please don't half-ass your breaks. If you're sitting down, sit on your butt. Cross your legs and concentrate on your breath and slowing down your heart rate. None of this bending over breathing in and out your mouth junk. That's not helping! Commit to your breaks, and treat them as though they were postures too (especially if you're in Savasana during the floor series. Own it!).

Breathe through your nose

Pretty self-explanatory, but this can be hard if you're not conscious of your breath or if you're new to the whole coordinating-body-movement-with-breath thing. In Bikram, we breathe through the nose slowly and normally for everything except the two breathing exercises and the sit-ups. If you breathe through your mouth, you tell your body you're freaking out. And guess what?

You're not freaking out! This is just yoga. :)

Beautiful backbends! Photo via

Bikram Yoga Sea Cliff.

Commit to the experience

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tay in the room for 90 minutes. Sit down long before you need to leave. Moving between temperatures will make you feel worse, I promise. And experienced yogis, remember the 5 P's (aka the only reasons you should leave the room): puke, pee, poop, period, pass out. Anything else and you're not listening to Bikram's finest words:

If you can, you must!

Have fun!

You came to class to relax, not to stress, right? So choose not to suffer, choose to enjoy the yoga, choose to see what it can do for your body, mind and soul in and out of the heat. 

Come back.

We've all been there: the first class is hard. Probably the hardest. Generally it takes 5-10 times doing Bikram to get used to the heat, and maybe even up to 15 before you aren't feeling pain in some of the postures (like your elbows in Locust, or in your lower back during Savasana).

If the studio where you practice offers and intro special, consider purchasing it so you have motivation to return

In general, these are the best deals - and more legit than a Groupon! (Although if you bought a Groupon, all the power to you, too. Whatever it takes to get your ass to the studio!)

Advanced yogi readers, what advice can you add to the mix? I'd love to see your comments below for more ideas. Enjoy class and congrats on changing your life through yoga!

If you want to read more beginner's advice and what you'll gain from Bikram, go here. Plus, be sure to read up on how to quit the fidget.

Just wait: after class, you'll sleep like a baby! 

New Years Extravagance

Photo via angelaandithyle.


Who's ready for New Year's?


Here are some fun ideas for you and your love to spend the last few hours of 2010. Celebrate as you ring in the new year!


Make a bonfire with some friends.

Stay up late enough to make a sunrise breakfast. 
Photo via For Me, For You.

Dye your hair a bold red for the big party.

Dress up and get fancy with your beau.
Photo via Jose Villa.

Paint your nails so they'll sparkle.
Photo via For Me, For You.

Wear a backless dress. Ooh la la!

Escape for a private dance on the dock.

Party somewhere extravagant.
Photo via CKCK.

 Make a toast!
Photo via For Me, For You.

Bake brownies for you and your friends. 
Photo via For Me, For You.

Smooch!  
Photo via Kissssing.

I will be sailing out on San Francisco Bay if the weather holds. My dad and stepmom are super excited to show me the awesome fireworks from the water once we're docked near Pier 39. I'm hoping we'll also get to walk around the city a bit, and if it's warm enough I'll put on my party dress!


Lots of love and namaste.

A Happy NorCal Christmas

My favorite part about this area is that you can encounter nature just footsteps from home.

How was your Christmas? I had a lovely couple of days enjoying northern California weather. It rained quite a bit yesterday, but Christmas Eve was beautiful! Sunny skies and temps worthy of flip-flops.

Dad and I took a walk by the creek to see the ducks, orange trees, and a secret birdhouse.

I helped cook and decorate the kitchen with some festive lights.

 Gotta love those retro bulbs.

I also enjoyed tromping around on the backyard moss carpet. Everything here is so green this time of year! I have to say, I'm not missing the bare trees of Chicago. Yes, I am looking forward to seeing the snow, but not those bleak colors.


Under the oak tree in my dad's backyard.

Christmas Eve night we joined my mom for a lovely candlelit service at church. Mom sang beautifully and hit all the high notes and we felt the spirit singing all the Christmas carols.

We had a blast visiting with my sis and her little guy at my mom's house yesterday, too. Zeke is about 18 months now and he's quite the character! His favorite was drawing with new crayons and ripping paper off of packages.

Many thanks to the fam for all the generous gifts! My mom found me a beautiful yoga mat carrier, leg warmers and some wild and colorful gloves with a matching hat. The Brother hooked me up with a bunch of candles and some beautiful wall sconces. Sis baked cookies and made some ridiculously good fudge. Dad created some incredible artsy lamps for me in his garage workshop. I'll be posting about them with photos soon (you're going to be amazed!). 

A post-holiday swim? Amazing. Photo via Most Beautiful Darling.

What did you enjoy most about yesterday? I hope you had a meaningful, relaxing and family-filled day and that you're getting excited to celebrate the new year! 

Ready to Party


Who's ready to celebrate? Even after shopping at the crazy mall today, I'm still slightly in disbelief that Christmas is the day after tomorrow.


Do you have your gifts wrapped? And your party hat ready for an end-of-the-year bash?


More importantly, are you practicing yoga through the holidays? My 90-minute meditation today was wonderful. Totally needed it.
Photo via Jonas Peterson.

Here are some fun ideas for you and your love if you need ideas for celebrating with style and on the cheap. 
  • Take a Bikram class together.
  • Watch some silly Christmas-themed yoga videos here.
  • Check out this funny post on the 12 Days of Yoga.
Photo via Jonas Peterson.
  • Take a walk through your city or town and take photos along the way. Make a little memory book and look through it together. If you're married, flip through some of your wedding photos afterward, too.
  • Homemade hot cider. Need I say more?
  • Figure out where the best local Christmas lights in town are. Visit them and smooch between houses! (We discovered today that there's a neighborhood near by where a house has Christmas music playing and lights that flash along with the beats of the songs. Love it. Can't wait to check it out.)
  • Volunteer at a local animal shelter for a day, or offer to take your neighbor's on a walk.
Photo via Jonas Peterson.

Whatever you're up to this holiday season, I hope it's bright and merry! Enjoy, and keep me posted on your adventures.

California Dreamin'

Photos via Sarah Rhoads.  


Hello, barefoot days in California. I'm ready for you! 


I also can't wait to... play with my Zekester, take walks to the park, drive around to see the Christmas lights, have yoga dates with Lo and a Bikram born-again reunion at BYGB, catch up with my girls, and cook in my mom's kitchen.


Sleeping in. Tahoe snow. New Year's Eve sailing in the San Francisco Bay.


It's party time! T-minus 24 hours til California.

Spread Some Cheer

Oh, to be home for the holidays. Photo via Andrew and Carissa.

Let's balance out that last post with some lovely images from around the Web that will get you smiling. Here's hoping your morning has been full of festivity, exquisite skies, and snowy adventures! 

A view of last night's eclipse. Photo via Pacing the Panic Room.

Winter wonderland! Photos via Krisatomic

Headspin, Tailspin, Plunge: A Holiday Check-In

You can only hide from your own yoga practice for so long. Photo via DearDear.

I have to say, it's been one heck of a holiday season so far! Busy busy busy bees. I buzz around from work to home, from the Midwest to the Caribbean, from wake to sleep.


All this travel, eating out, and getting caught with a yucky cough has affected my Bikram practice. Tonight I found myself in the Torture Chamber feeling a little chubbier and a lot tanner than usual, hoping that class would go smoother than Sunday's.


I lucked out: my body decided to work together with me, so instead of chasing my breath around the room I was able to connect with it, utilize my nostrils, and complete every posture.


A week away from Bikram and you might start to feel like this. Photo via Etsy's Tumblr.

I felt great, especially considering after the last two classes I seriously thought I'd go a month before completing every asana again. While I've felt incredible and super-energized after classes since I returned from Puerto Rico, I must admit that those 90-minute meditations have been hard


I often find myself out of breath, overwhelmed. I set up in the last row by the beginners, wondering where has my Bikram yoga gone?


I think the worst part about playing catch up is that I seem to have lost the Bengal Tiger strength and bulldog determination part of the yoga. I get frustrated by the little things, and quickly. I get distracted easily.


I find my eyes wandering around the room, comparing myself to other yogis. I tell myself I need to push harder, be better, be able to execute the postures like I did a month ago instead of listening to my body today.


I slip and slide, overindulge, feel discouraged.


At work, I let the little mistakes I make get to me, I let them be reasons to dislike my own Self. At home, I can feel distant when I don't communicate about my needs or exhausted when I over-work. Then when I take a day off, I feel guilty.


Welcome to the holidays, right?


Photos via A Desert Fete. 


Do you ever get the sense that this is a time of year where your expectations are highest and your ability to meet them is at an all-time low? I know I'm exaggerating here, but I just want to make the point that despite the eggnog lattes and silver bows, December can be a rough month -- emotionally, financially, physically. For singles and couples, individuals and families. 


We're all trying to do so much, and if we're not practicing our yoga, it's hard to do anything at all.


It's easy to over-eat, over-spend, and over-plan all the wintery celebrations and decorations.


Just think: all those holiday parties with their mini wieners and meatballs, their shrimp dip and crackers, their champagne punch! Speaking from experience here. And it was delicious, let me tell you! :)


Alright, so I do think that celebrating with special food and drink and super awesome company is a must of the holiday season. But if that celebrating really leaves you feeling empty or lonely or overweight, I highly recommend you try to make up for it in the Hot Room.


Eat, drink, be merry, and then do your yoga! Commit to the 90 minutes. Sit down when you need a break.


Find the community at your studio, too, and enjoy it. Meet people; chat in the locker rooms; get together (for healthy food and drink) after class! When you can truly connect to other dedicated Bikram yogis around you, the experience of the postures becomes different -- fuller, more meaningful, more well-rounded. You find yourself with someone to talk to about the ways the yoga applies to life outside the hot box, and sharing those reflections can change your life (and your practice).


Keep an eye on your yoga, or it might sneak away from you.

Don't get me wrong: I don't want this post to imply that I'm suffering this month, or even this holiday season. I'm simply attuned to those who are, and the moments which sometimes make December and January feel like a mudslide. 

I'm a very happy yogi right now. I've been so, so lucky and incredibly blessed with the stuff I have going on. I could not be more surrounded by loving people, either. 

Even in the Hot Room, a place that's felt distant lately, I have a lot to be grateful for. My Standing Bow has improved a ton, probably in part because I spent all my free moments in Puerto Rico taking photos of that posture on the beach. :) I'm also learning to enjoy the first set of postures, and really treat it like a warm-up instead of a race to the finish line. I'm learning what it means to slow down so that I can keep doing the yoga at a steady pace rather than needing a break and missing out on postures.

I'm realizing more and more that without the yoga, I can't quite handle it all. I'm learning what I need to do to make Bikram a priority, even when the holidays bring madness. And I'm hoping that you're doing the same. 

Here's to keeping Christmas week and New Year's stress-free, yoga-filled, and rich with love, light and happiness!

Find your bliss. And hold on to it with all you've got. 

Namaste,
Rachel

And once you've done your yoga, relax! That's what I plan to do soon as I'm home in CA.

Real Men Do Yoga: Hans Park


Time for our next yogi in the Real Men Do Yoga Series!

I'd like to introduce you to Hans Park, who attends class at Bikram Yoga Metrotown in Vancouver, British Columbia. You can find him on Flickr and Twitter. This is his story.

Now that's some core strength. I can only imagine Hans' handstands!

I've been practicing Bikram yoga for about 25 hours (it makes me laugh to describe it way).  In all seriousness, though, I've been practicing for six weeks and have completed about 17 classes.  I had known about the yoga for quite some time but decided to take advantage of a sale at a Bikram studio close to where I live.  


$20 for 15 classes within 30 days? Too good of a deal to pass up.  


I figured there would be one of three outcomes: 1) I figure out I don't really like the yoga, 2) I really like it and want to continue, or 3) I fall over after attempting to maintain a posture and hilarity would ensue.  


I found the result was a combination of #2 and #3.  I really enjoy Bikram and I do fall over attempting to maintain some of the postures... but there is no hilarity, just a lot of concentration and sweating, of course.  I ended up using up all of the classes within the 30 day limit.  Before the end of my trial the studio had a one day sale so I took advantage of this and bought a 25 class package at 50% off the regular price everything kind of fell into place! 

The heat itself doesn't bother me as I've spent quite a bit of time working in hot countries in Asia and Africa.  At first I found it challenging to get through each class but now I’m finding the challenge is getting through each posture.  


That being said, I see improvements with each class.  I can't say I feel any less manly doing this and often get told by people that they are surprised to hear that I go to classes regularly.  


I noticed a marked improvement in certain exercises at the gym and I sleep better, and likely have found other benefits I haven’t noticed yet.  My mom also mentioned that my complexion was better too (Thanks Mom, haha!).  Last but not least, I enjoy hearing about the different experiences the other people in class have and also learning about the different backgrounds the teachers come from.

Hans


Sounds like Hans will be hitting the heat for a while! As a thank you for his submission, Alive in the Fire will be offering Hans the chance to choose a prize from several awesome Etsy sellers. If you submit, you can win a tasty treat, lovely soap, or other surprise too!


Want to read more about men who aren't afraid of the Torture Chamber? Check out Joe's story or how you can submit your own.


Photo via Dudes Doing Yoga.

How to Make a Happy Yogi: Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Awkward Friends & Downward Dogs

Time to glow. Photo via Scout and Catalogue.

 
All tangled? Simple gift ideas here. Photo via Wikstenmade.
Still shopping?

Here are some quick ideas for what to get your yogi friends, and your not-yet-yogi friends who need converting.


And a holiday reminder to all: it's about the love, not the cash you spend!
  • A Pranayama breathing app. Ever wished you could take a moment to breathe and not freak out? Well, here you are. Yoga breathing techniques on-the-go. Recently reviewed over at Daily Cup of Yoga.

  • Red Leaf bar soap for guys. This Etsy shop has the best masculine suds around. Packaging comes in holiday colors, too!
  • For those first-row kind of sexy Bikram girls you know: a ruffle bra from Need Supply Co! This looks super comfy, too.
Photo via Couture Boudoir.
  •  A sexy boudoir session from a local Chicago photographer like Couture BoudoirLaura Meyer or Kara Schultz. Give your man some sexy photos as a surprise!
  • Grey bootie shoes from Osborn that make a comfortable and cozy alternative to winter boots.
  • A beautiful Le Creuset french oven pan for the foodies you love (and love to invite over for potlucks!) via Cookware.
  • A yoga music CD.
  • A yoga shirt for your puppy, and a visit to this dog-friendly studio / cafe. I wasn't kidding about the gift ideas for your downward dogs thing! :)
  • A gift certificate to your favorite studio so you and your friends can yoga together.
  • Some VitaCoco, Ultima Replenisher and Kashi bars for a pre- or post-workout snack that replenishes and rehydrates.

What yogi gifts are on your wish list this year?
Snuggle up out there! Photo via Scout and Catalogue.

Practice, Not Perfect Execution

Photos via Brandy Lyn Winfield, an incredible yogini who won the 2010 Bishnu Charan Ghosh Cup and who teaches at Bikram Yoga Summerlin in Las Vegas, NV.

How many times does a Yoga Asana Championship-winning yogi practice a posture before taking home that trophy?

You'll never know. They lost count.

Or better yet, they never counted to begin with. Because it wasn't about the number of times they got it right. It was about trying again. Doing the best they could. Letting go of the rest.

Taking flight.

I recently read a lovely blog post by Bikram yogi Hannah over at Hannah Just Breathe about how there is always something we can learn from our practice. Even if we mess up and eat right before class, sitting in savasana can teach us to prepare better next time. Even if we've been to Teacher Training and back, we have more to learn from our instructors and the yogis around us about how to focus, how to let go, how to have fun.

Whether it's our first class or our 100th in a challenge, we are practicing strength and getting better by letting go of expectations instead of demanding perfection of ourselves.

As Hannah's teacher said, "Each time you come, each time you practice, you learn something new, about your body or yourself or the yoga.  It is the practice that’s important, not the perfect execution.”

Next time you get overwhelmed by your own mistakes, or frustrated by your yoga performance, I challenge you to reconsider the way you define your practice. Are you at the studio to experience the yoga and to detox your body and mind, or to impress your fellow yogis by executing the posture perfectly?

Will you fix your hair and shorts and wipe sweat so you look OK, or let it go and get down to business?

Who are you making eye contact with in the mirror -- your neighbor or your own steady gaze?

Do you bring home pride, or humility after class?

I was so proud of Joanna over at Lock the Knee when I read her recent post about how well she took disappointment when competing in regional yoga championships did not go exactly as planned. Basically, she didn't hit her Standing Bow the way she had been hoping to, and practicing for, but that didn't mean she was about to give up. And in case you were wondering, she's got a killer Standing Bow:
A true Bikram yogi and teacher. I mean, this lady's got it goin' on.

Instead of slinking off-stage, Juliana took her time completing the rest of the postures she had been practicing (as she says, "because at this point I didn't really care about the clock and I was still on stage in front of a whole ton of people.  I might as well do something nice before hanging up my leotard until next year!").

Sarcasm aside, instead of freaking out or getting upset, J was able to laugh off what didn't go as well as she hoped it would -- and she even posted about it on her blog in one of the most hilarious throwbacks to the awesome web comic Hyperbole and a Half I've ever read. She had fun, she did some great yoga, and she took home no regrets -- she practiced being calm and carrying on! -- and for that, The Dancing J should be super proud.

As should Hannah, her wise instructor, and the novice yogi who he counseled about coming to class on and empty stomach.

With these inspiring Bikram yogis in mind, I challenge you to reconsider your habits at the studio, and your true motives for engaging in this practice called yoga.

Next time you find yourself whining at yourself in the mirror about how you didn't achieve that last inch of depth in Half Moon, or how you didn't get your chin to shoulder in Standing Bow before falling out, shut your brain up.

Relax.

Bikram yoga is about practice, not perfect execution.

I love how delicate her toes are in this picture. So beautiful! You can believe it took some practice to get to this perfect execution.

Love in the Everyday

Photo via Paolo Zerbini.
A reader recently posted about how she enjoys the fact that my blog embraces the everyday. She said she can appreciate it even though she's not a yogi because I post about simple, real things in my life.


I was super honored, excited and inspired by that idea.


Sometimes I am in awe of the little wonderful moments we encounter on days that might outwardly seem dull.


We catch the light in the kitchen illuminating the steam from beneath a pot on the stove.


Photo via Age Old Tree.

We do our yoga again, and are transformed by it. Again.

Photo via Jose Villa.

We share a kiss.

Photo via OnceWed.

We discover a puppy in a tuxedo.

The unusual within the everyday makes me smile. You?

Real Men Do Yoga: Joseph Barilla

Photo by my talented friend Emily.

Remember a long, long time ago when I mentioned an upcoming series about guys who rock their yoga practice? The time has come for our first post! I'm excited to introduce our first yogi in the Real Men Do Yoga series: Joseph Barilla.

Joe is a Bikram yogi who started his practice at the studio in Carle Place, NY and who now attends classes at Rockville Centre, NY. You can find him on Facebook here. This is his story.

Quite a tall Triangle Pose!

I have been practicing Bikram yoga on and off for four years. It is the first yoga I tried and I was immediately hooked on the heat, the challenge, and the unique perspective on life that the yoga provides. My favorite postures are Standing Bow Pose and Camel Pose.

I never felt it was an issue to do yoga as a man. I just did it. Liked it. Did it more. Hated it for making me feel stupid or terrible sometimes. Did it more. Liked it more for making me feel terrible, realizing I had stuff to clean up inside my body and in my life as well. 

I don't feel any more or less manly practicing yoga. To all the guys who mock the yoga dudes, I say, "I will out-dance and out-live you!"

I do some of the poses at home, but its not the same thing. Besides, I get a kick out of watching people that are about to pass out.  I will admit, though, I usually have that look on my face. Working on it. Have been for four years. I feel as if I just started yesterday.

I will attend the training soon. It's been on my mind for a couple of years now. I'm not sure how I feel about Bikram's rule about not wearing green at the training because it's his least favorite color. (It happens to be my favorite color.) But...I can deal, I suppose. Nine weeks of doing Bikram yoga twice a day will most likely make me focus on other things, like trying to stay alive. ;)

I'm at a transition phase of my life. I wish, I pray, I yell, I dream about attending the training in California. I'm not really sure of anything right now and it's a little scary not knowing what my future will look like. But the training is something I would like to attend within the next year. 

Namaste,
Joseph

Be a man. Do yoga. And then submit to Alive in the Fire about it. Photo by Steven Brahms.

Guys, submit your yoga story to be part of the series! Whether you do Bikram or any other style, I'd love to hear from you. Email aliveinthefire @ gmail [dot] com today!

Exciting note: I'm not positive yet, but I'm hoping to do special giveaways for the guys who submit, so get yours in early. :)